The bad effects of having a friends-with-benefits (FWB)

 

Emotional confusion – One person might develop romantic feelings while the other doesn’t, which can lead to heartache or disappointment.

Jealousy – Even without a committed relationship, jealousy can creep in if your FWB starts seeing someone else or becomes emotionally distant.

Loss of friendship – If things go wrong, the friendship might not survive. Sex can complicate the dynamics and make it hard to return to "just friends."

Lack of emotional support – FWBs may not provide the deep emotional intimacy or security that comes with a romantic relationship.

Risk of STIs – If either partner is seeing others and there’s no open communication about it, sexual health risks can increase.

Unclear boundaries – Without clear rules, miscommunication and unmet expectations can lead to stress or drama.

Friends with Benefits: Pros and Cons for Gay Men

A friends-with-benefits (FWB) arrangement can be appealing for gay men seeking connection without commitment. The pros include sexual satisfaction without the pressures of a romantic relationship, emotional comfort from a trusted friend, and the freedom to explore desires. It can also be a way to navigate dating fatigue or prioritise career or personal goals.

However, the cons are worth noting. Feelings may develop unevenly, leading to confusion or heartache. Jealousy can surface, especially if one partner starts dating others. Clear communication is essential to avoid misunderstandings and protect emotional well-being. Also, STIs remain a risk, so practicing safe sex is crucial.

FWB arrangements work best when both parties are honest, emotionally aware, and set clear boundaries.

For more insights, check out this article from Healthline:
https://www.healthline.com/health/friends-with-benefits

Aying's Bday and Ray

It was Nov the 2nd when aying celebrated her birthday, which was supposedly on the 4th of November, and she has the same bday with ray. Coning, Maria labo, Ising, and Ray were waiting for me in Calea, it was a cake house, where they served the best cake i ever tried before. It was late 3.00 pm when we left the city proper of Bacolod and headed to Tangub, where aying live.

Upon arriving, we just had a little rest, then after that we had a good snacks, where aying had this tasteful foods, like spaghetti, pancit molo which was my favorite of all, pansit, marshmallow dipped with graham, cakes, tacos which taste good, sandwiches, and other which i can not remember.

After eating, we headed to Villarosa beach, where we had another photo shoot under the great dark clouds with the eye of a wonderful moon and the shadow of sun's arms. It was really fantastic. And it was where i saw Nina, one of our used to be icu nurse.

furthermore, after our beach fun, we went to aying's house againg and had our second batch snacks and sing a long, i know that i do not like singing in other house, but i need to, hehehe. Afterwards, we went home at around 8.00 pm, but nora, ising ang me asked ray to dropped us in SM City. I bought this biscocho and then julie went to national bookstore.

Ising and I had dinner in manokan country in nenas 1, where i liked their original chicken inasal recipe. We left the place at around 10.00 pm and then i arrived nearly 11.00 pm.

Friends

It was Saturday morning when upon waking up my mom told me that the front tire of her car was out of air. So instead of gargling for bactidol, i took the hydraulic jack and air pump and started my activities. After that i had a shower and she told me that we will be going to Gaisano city, one of the biggest cheap mall in our city. But after i took a shower, coning sent an sms inviting us to go out for lunch. But i had my commentment already to my mom to i texted ising that i could not go out for lunch with them.

So, me and my mom went to the mall and had our lunch there at around 12.30 noon, of the same day. After our dinner, we roam around the mall and looked for souveneir clothes,which i will be bringing on my trip to Australia. So we took 8 different masskara shirts and one was for me.

Afterwards, my mom went to the pharmacy to buy some inhalers, and had an ostio*sclerosis,arthritis high tech test beside the phaarmacy. It was for the promotion of caltrate, a medicine which gives additional calcium to human bones.


When my mom was done with her free test, we went to the grocery and bought some unusual foods. And i was so tired. We went home at around 2.00 pm or 3.00 pm. Then refreshed myself and went to where my friends were, in WNU.

When i met with my friend, coning, ising and maria, we went ahead to beach grill or i forgot the name hehehe. Anyway, i had snacks in there, but coning had, i did not know what you call it, maybe luncheranda. hehehe combination of what lunch and merienda. Furthermore, we had a tiny inch adventure beside the sea shore, where coning and maria were so busy taking pictures while ising was so busy making piled stones and i was so busy to be busy.